A shocking revelation by Alix Fox (a Durex Sex expert) has left many imminent couples muddled by the reality of the sexual patterns among couples. In her report, Alix explained that at least one in five men and an even larger figure among women always experience a loss of libido just a few months after their engagement. Alix sort of tried to associate this low sex drive among couples to effects of hormonal contraceptions, which have been known to kill libido in days.
Also some antidepressants, which by the way are usually prescribed over the counter in many drug stores, could cause a less inclination to sex. What’s even more shocking is the fact that Stress alone has the same hormonal impact to sex drive as menopause and ageing does. So how do you boost your sex drive, if stress alone, is killing it? Well, Alix suggested 4 things that could restore sexual sanity in your relationship. Here they are.
- Spice it up
Actually research has shown that monotony and repeating the same roles and styles all the time is a real killer to sexual drive. According to Alix, both women and men should avoid being monotonous I their daily bed affairs. In other words, stop being the mum you always are every day, or the office guy you always are all the time. Instead try to spice you behaviors once in a while.
For instance, you can try dressing up in lingerie if you are a woman and if you are a man, kill the pattern. A good recommendation is that don’t plan for sex. Let it come impromptu. Couples who always plan that Wednesday or Friday is the D-Day, have a higher chance of killing the drive because of patterns. Kill the patterns.
- Have a Scent
The human brain is programmed to work like a computer. It associates certain inputs to certain activities. For, instance, you know how Auto-Prediction works on your phone? Your brain works in such a pattern. If certain words are typed on you messenger, the phone is able to know what is likely to be the next word in line.
Applying this to the sexual context, when a man or a woman wears a certain kind of perfume all the time, their partner tends to associate that perfume scent to their partner. A study in America for instance has proven that men are turned on by pumpkin pie and lavender scents when their women are cooking. This is enough evidence that scent has a considerable impact on libido.
Some men and women have even confirmed that whenever they smell someone wearing their partner’s kind of perfume, more likely they get sexually active. It is therefore important that couples learn to wear a certain perfume and stick by it. This will give enough time for their partners to store the data in their brains; and hopefully next time they smell that perfume at the bus station on their way home, they might come running straight into the act.
- Have your own Game
Couples should have their own games that they like so that they can make the act more exciting. This thing of people running straight into bed and after 10 minutes or so they are snoring should end. If you want to boost your sex drive or that of your partner, have a small game to delay the action and keep everyone excited. It’s all about playing with the brain and triggering some kind of eagerness.
What everyone should know is that any relationship problem can be solved through communication. The biggest heartbreaks of all time have been due to lack of communication. Men are usually very reluctant to hear from their women where they are doing it wrong. But a wise man listens to his woman. Nothing kills libido for everyone, like when a woman is not satisfied. The trick here is to make sure that the Female side is turned on. This is what will pull more engagement into the act from the man.
Communicate with you woman, know what turns her on. If you are woman, don’t fake orgasms just to impress your man. Instead tell him the truth so that he can improve his game. Otherwise trying to conceal your man’s downsides will only injure your relationship at a later time, when you are long past the No return side.